How can you love someone whose politics you disagree with? Just ask Bianca Gonzalez.
She voted for Mar Roxas during the 2016 elections. Her husband, basketball player JC Intal, voted for Rodrigo Duterte.
In an interview with Pep last week, Gonzalez explained that the most important thing to keep in mind while arguing with your better half in an effort to find a political middle ground is “respect.”
“I think it just becomes a problem [identity politics] if you’re both vocal about it and you really fight each other,” she said. ” ‘Yun talaga, magkakalamat relationship ninyo.”
“But me and my husband, he knows the reasons why I support who I support. I know the reasons why he supports who he supports.
“And super I respect. Kasi talaga naman, there’s no good or —walang tamang choice — because ‘yun ‘yung paniniwala niya, or my vote is more important than this other person’s vote.”
“It’s more respecting that you are your own persons. Pero kung hindi mo kaya personally, like offended ka personally, I think it’s okay. Like I know people who unfriend on Facebook or mute kapag elections kasi parang, ‘Ugh, nakaka-stress.'”
“But nothing’s wrong with that,” she added.
In the same interview, Gonzalez also talked about whether not having shared values is worth losing a friend over; that in a democracy, people should be allowed to support “whoever they want”; and her tip on ignoring bashers and remaining opinionated.”